Every time you walk into this worship space, there is a small metal plaque that greets you, just at eye level. It’s not ostentatious, but it’s there on every door. I wonder if you have noticed it? Here is what it says: Whoever you are and wherever you find yourself on the journey of faith, you are welcome here as you are. Lori told me this week that we still have some for sale in the Bookstall, so if you like that saying as much as I do, you know where to get one.
Over the years, I have had, many times, the experience of someone coming to see me, sharing something about themselves – maybe their current feelings about God, their life situation, their history – and asking “Can someone like me come to this church?” I don’t believe I have ever said anything but “Of course you can,” and I’m grateful to be in a denomination that, at least at our best, espouses the message of that plaque: Whoever you are and wherever you find yourself on the journey of faith, you are welcome here as you are.
I’m a realist, though, and I think that over the years, every time I’ve assured someone that yes, a person like them is welcome, I’ve also cautioned them that I can’t guarantee that every single Episcopalian they meet will treat them with consistent unconditional love. There is, after all, a difference between espousing a high-level theory of loving your neighbor and actually doing it on the ground.
In his book People of the Way, Fr. Dwight Zscheile tells the story of his family attending Mass at an Episcopal church with a banner out front proclaiming that the parish offered “RADICAL HOSPITALITY!” However, not a single person spoke to them, and the minute his three-year-old rustled a piece of paper during the liturgy, he found out from a series of hostile glares how extremely limited their actual ability to practice actual hospitality to actual human beings was.
But it gets even more topsy turvy, because a horde of local residents show up. Are they coming because they’ve heard Peter’s house is welcoming? No, they’re coming because they’ve heard that Jesus can help them. He has brought the Kingdom in person, he can heal and save, and there’s not a family on earth, now or then, that doesn’t need what he has. So they come from all over, streaming to this little house, lining up to come face to face with God incarnate and receive from him in person. Mark says, “The whole city was gathered around the door.”
Hours and hours of specific manifestations of the Kingdom later, Jesus goes away by himself to pray. When Peter and the others finally find him out in the middle of nowhere, they’re flushed with triumph. “Everyone’s looking for you!” they announce. They have made a splash, they’re perfectly positioned to trade on the credibility they’ve generated, put a banner out front of Peter’s house, and have people come join up.
But Jesus resists. He says the most extraordinary thing. He says, “Let us go on to the neighboring towns, so that I may proclaim the message there also; for that is what I came out to do.” His priority isn’t to build something where he’s doing well and get people to join it, but to go out offering the experience of the Kingdom. What he came out to do wasn’t to attract people to a gathering place, but to go give away what God is doing in and through him. To give away transformation, reconciliation, abundant life.
I expect Peter and the others were baffled at this strategy. I know we contemporary Christians usually are. It would be so much easier if Jesus had come to attract people to a gathering place. Then his followers could just gather. And then we could just welcome anyone else who wanted to gather with us, and we’d be all set. That’s not hard to do. It happens everywhere: Milo’s restaurant does it, the YMCA does it, the Krannert Center does it, book clubs do it; it’s common in our society to experience places that make people of all kinds who come there feel welcome. But Jesus didn’t prioritize that; it was a byproduct of what he prioritized.
What he came out to do was to give away what God was doing in and through him. To announce the Kingdom and demonstrate it. And everyone needs that; it crosses all dividing lines. Paul says the same thing in today’s Epistle. Rich, poor, weak, strong, Jew, Gentile, law-abiding or lawless: all those differences were swept away by the compelling central concern of giving away what Jesus offers. Something you can’t get anywhere else. Things that come as byproducts of it may be available elsewhere, but what he came out to do is only available in him.
You can get welcome qua welcome lots of places. In fact, you can get many excellent byproducts lots of places. Friendships and art and music; chances to serve at something you find meaningful, thoughtful conversations; coffee, fun social gatherings; support when you’re down, personal growth -- all byproducts, things that come along with the real focus of giving away what Jesus offers.
And this sort of takes us back, I think, to that beautiful plaque. Whoever you are and wherever you find yourself on the journey of faith, you are welcome here as you are. Actually putting that theory into practice, to me, is part of Anglicanism at its best, but putting it into practice gets easier the less you deal in byproducts. Episcopal churches that can proudly point to their deep diversity -- and they’re rare – churches where all kinds of households, all age groups, all ethnicities, all economic and educational levels are truly involved: those are inevitably the churches that have found ways to let byproducts be byproducts and focus on the central mission.
There’s an anthropologist, Paul Hiebert, who analyzes churches as either bounded sets or centered sets. A bounded set is a group of people defined by a boundary along the edges that separates those who are inside from those who are out. Most human groups are bounded sets. Think of a horse corral. The horses are all inside the same fence; if they’re inside they get fed and cared for, and any outside horses have to be tamed first and accept the norms of life inside. Churches that function like this always treat some byproduct as the fence. It might be a doctrine they promote, it might be a behavior they expect, it might be a matter of taste. Or the fence can even just be “we need a lot of time to get to know you and be convinced you fit in with us.” That’s a bounded set.
The other model this anthropologist describes is a centered set. In a centered set, there is no fence defining “us” over against “them.” The set gets its identity not from a boundary you have to get past to belong, but from what is at the center. There is something so compelling at the center of this kind of collection of people that it is what defines and connects them. So involvement is not based on needing to become “one of us” before you can belong. The key question is not whether I am in or out, but how am I relating to the center? People are free to be who they are, standing at different places, moving towards the center at their own pace. Those who are drawn most powerfully by the center will probably be fairly involved with each other too, but that’s a byproduct. All kinds of people will be in the gathering because all kinds of people find the center magnetic, but that’s a byproduct.
If a horse corral pictures a bounded set, a centered set is more like a water hole in the African grasslands. Animals that live in the area are naturally drawn to the water. In the dry season, it’s not uncommon to find animals that at any other time of year might stay away from each other, all peacefully sharing that one water hole, not because of some campaign about how gazelles need to be more accepting of springboks, but because there is water in the water hole.
When churches exist as centered sets rather than as boundaried gatherings trying to attract people to get past their fence, when churches let the magnetic power of what Christ offers be their center rather than define boundaries by byproducts, the same kind of thing happens.
People of all backgrounds and beliefs are welcomed to join the conversation, to be deployed in service, to learn from and challenge each other, and to encourage one another to move ever closer to the center. Because we are all drawn to the same well, all thirsty to drink from the same source of the same living water. Because Jesus is that magnetic and what he offers every person is that important. Because this, as he said to Peter this morning, this is what he came out to do.